A LIFESTYLE BLOG ABOUT A GIRL LIVING IN LONDON

How to be single: Part 1

9 Sep 2012

Today marks a whole six months that I have been a single girl living in the city. This is the longest I've been single in... well, ever really. Which is kind of terrifying! But in a good way. It's something I definitely recommend everyone doing. Obviously don't all go rushing to chuck your boyfriends (!) but if you find yourself this way in your twenties, I'd recommend sticking at it at least for a couple of months.

Sometimes it feels like the whole blogging world has a boyfriend and at times I get a little nostalgic. After having someone stick around for a couple of years, you definitely feel a little more 'riding-solo' than previously. BUT - who am I kidding: I get to eat Chinese food at 3 in the morning in my pants, a luxury only previously experienced when the boyfriend was out. I ROCK.

Point being: being single is what you make of it, and I've resolved to make it fun.

For part 1 of my 'how to be single' I wanted to talk personal goals...
When I say personal goals, I mean those little-big things that you always wish you were, or had, whilst you were in a relationship. We all have them - it's what makes us leave, or makes other people leave us. If you are an unfulfilled person, it seeps into everything, including relationships. Being single is, in my opinion, one of the ways to break the unhealthy cycle and to start again. What better time to do some alone-stuff?

For me, I want to regain my smoking hot body. (Ok, I kid.) But I definitely want to become far fitter and healthier than I am now, and regain some of the hotness I lost during my relationship marathon.



I get a huge buzz from working out, but sloth means it's a constant battle to get out of the habit of being lazy! When you are in a relationship it is so easy to let yourself slip into couch potato mode and it's all about breaking the cycle.

SO - my secret weapon. Music. 

Listening to great music really loud is my vice - I was recently gifted some awesome Sennheiser headphones* (which you can plug into your iPhone or laptop) which play music fantastically loud and pretty much block the world out. I'm wearing them in the top picture.

There is nothing like work-out playlist to really motivate you, so I've taken the liberty of constructing a 'Flabby Tum to Juicy Bum' set of tracks which you can subscribe to on Spotify too if you so wish! It's quite an eclectic mix and definitely caters to my taste of loud, shouty indie synth & drum and bass!

I promise you that if you find a playlist you love, getting to the gym won't seem like a chore. Or, in fact, anything that you set your mind to. That personal goal that eluded you - make a playlist dedicated to it, all about it, with lyrics from different songs that really speak to you (or a bassline that let's you legitimately pretend to be Rihanna dancing around in a lacey onsie. We've all done it)

Point being, that in making that playlist you have taken the first step to really nailing it. And once you've taken the first step, what you've got to do is keep putting one in front of the other.

I hope you enjoyed this post! It's a little more personal, so let me know if you like it. Til next time!

*I was gifted these as a PR sample but as always my opinions remain honest!

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20 lovely comments:

  1. I love your post,
    I am newly single after forever and I have put on the pounds, in the past year I have been losing weight though so I only have like 11pounds left to my before relationship weight, but i gained so much form being so unhealthy.

    So go you!
    and I am deff going to have an amazing time being single!
    Like yourself I never did stay single for long so I think I need a massive brake and just enjoy life and get to know my single self that bit
    better

    Can't wait for your next post!!

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    1. Hey Sas!
      Yes After a brief period of not eating I found myself eating EVERYTHING I could get my hands on. And I got quite unhealthy too...
      I'm looking forward to getting to know 'single me' too. I've had a dalliance in the meantime but it went nowhere, so although I'm open to it I'm definitely not settling for anything less than awesome.
      SO happy you liked the post =] means a lot
      xxx

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  2. I'm not newly single but i have definitely put on weight since being with my boyfriend-think I need to get my (fat) ass in gear and realise that being comfy is not an excuse for letting myself go!

    Good on you for wanting to be healthy and happy-definitely the way to go <3

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    1. Did you subscribe to the playlist? I'm going to be adding new stuff to it each day =]

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  3. Really enjoyed this post. Looking forward to hearing about your other goals! Also, I love the photo of you with the headphones. :) xx

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  4. Having a little listen to your playlist now! xx

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  5. Lovely post!!

    thebeautymist.blogspot.co.uk

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  6. Glad you're enjoying being single now! (And enjoying the gym- dragging myself from bed to run is always the hardest part- but you do feel better afterwards!)
    Really interested to hear that six months is the longest time you've been single for. I have friends in a similar situation who've loved their new found freedom when it finally arrives.
    I've been single 10 years so pretty much just 'used to it'- but I think either way (relationship or no relationship) it's too easy to end up in a rut! On the exercise front I reckon a playlist might help me run faster (or further than a mile and half... *ahem*.)Well, it's either that or a personal trainer I can't afford unless I sell vital body organs...

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    1. Haha you do make me laugh. I am aiming to get fit without selling body organs, although if it was a toss up between lipo and losing a kidney, I'm not sure my willpower would out...

      Yes actually right now is the first time I've properly been enjoying my own company. I craved it for AGES though which is the weirdest thing.

      The best thing about it is I now live with girl housemates who I love very much. Living with someone is a real passion killer and I won't be doing it again in a LONG while. I very much value my independence.

      We need to meet up for drinks!

      xxx

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    2. Yep for sure. I'm up and down from London quite frequently so am sure we can sort it out some point soon.
      Your own company is actually quite nice. (Although sometimes I worry I'll turn into an old hermit lady with more shoes than friends...)
      And housemates are awesome. (As long as you don't get crazy ones!)xx

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  7. I kinda did the same thing when I found myself single a few months ago. Music really helps everything!

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    1. Music definitely helps. And big hugs and steaming mugs of tea. Lots of love xxx

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  8. I'm seriously loving this post! It's such a relief to know there is a life after the heartache!
    My ex broke up with me in a text a month ago. I'm so excited for part 2 (please let there be one!)
    If I could add anything to the playlist- I'd really recommend this-
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7XEKiNzfQ7w
    xxx

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    1. What a lovely song! I adore it, have had it on repeat now for the past hour at work. Busy checking out your blog now - and yes, I recently posted a part 2 =] xxx

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  9. You are awesome.
    This is all
    xoKLW
    http://www.thestylebite.co.uk

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  10. It's nice to read this, I'm in the same situation and I've finally got to the stage where I'm happy to be single and to have regained my life back!
    xxx

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    1. It's a good feeling and I'm definitely getting there. It is *so* nice to get my life back. xxx

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