I loved this little list of things to do - found it on tumblr but enjoyed it so much and thought it was so relevant I've re-posted it here.
I got loads of comments on my last post so I thought I'd do another here... today's post is all about your environment....
I think when you become one half of a couple, sometimes you can lose your individuality (especially true if you're in a toxic relationship) One of the things I really struggled with was a sense of 'self' and ownership - as a long-time only child (me and my little sister have 6 years between us) I've always had an inflated sensitivity to my surroundings and having things just as I like them - I suppose I'm slightly selfish, but when it comes to interiors and such I definitely have a vision for what things should look like.
Anyway, I think one of the first things you need to do when you find yourself single is to define your environment - to mark your territory as yours and yours alone, to prettify it and make it reflect your personality.
Remember the day that you first started at university, or perhaps when you moved into your first room - away from your parents. That 'new start' feeling - this is quite literally what I have right now. For so long I've been living with someone who abhorred everything remotely girly - I wasn't allowed pink, or flowers, or anything remotely feminine. It was dull, boring and totally not me. So when I got a room to myself... it was only natural I wanted to girlify it!
Laura Ashley wallpaper
It's amazing what a difference this has made to my mood; for those of you who don't follow me on twitter, I had been sleeping on a mattress on the floor as my previous bed had broken (!) and it was really getting me down - I had no room, everything was everywhere and it really didn't look pretty.
It's just amazing what a little TLC can do to your environment and to your mood. Now you're single, you owe it to yourself to make a fuss of yourself, so I highly recommend you go ahead and do it.
Are there any interior tips you might like to share? Or places to go shopping?
Totally agree with finding your environment and making it yours. It's scary when you look back and think that there wasn't much you and a lot of us. so important to keep you and making sure its still there.
ReplyDeleteI try not to dwell on it too much, but yes being 'half of a whole' doesn't leave much room for individuality. Yet here we are!
DeleteWhat a fabulous post. Love the illustration too x
ReplyDeleteThanks Rachael. I love it too - I saw it and I thought I *must* print that out and put it on my wall as a reminder! But then I thought, aah, the blog might like it better! So glad you like the post =]
DeleteLOVE the little list! I don't think I can manage everything it suggests, so I think I may create one of these for myself x
ReplyDeleteNo there is rather a lot of 'to-do' on here, isn't there! I like to think of it more as 'aims' as I certainly don't achieve much of this on a day-to-day basis.
DeleteTLC is totally important and the girly look of your room is super cute.
ReplyDeleteLaura x
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Thanks Laura =] I am a big 'little-girl' at heart!
DeleteLovely list Amelia, I hope it helps you to feel amazing again. I especially enjoy your stretch every day one as I am trying to learn how to do the splitz (which i havent been able to since i was 14)so this is what i'm doing too! Really enjoy reading your blog. Lizz xxx look-to-find.blogspot.co.uk
ReplyDeleteI've been very naughty and not sticking to many items on this list! BAD BLOGGER. But I endeavor to go to the gym tomorrow. Or tidy my room. Or something ;) Thank you for the lovely words! xxx
DeleteAmazing post.
ReplyDeleteI love the fact you have an original Bagpuss on your bed too.
Your room looks exactly how I wish mine would look, at the moment I can't decorate my uni digs so I'm sort of lost in a white box :(
But I have finally got my own way at my boyfriends, he's accepted (after months of pesting - haha) that scatter cushions on the bed make it look nicer :) He's caved & got some 'manly'ish cushions now.
p.s the illustraion is fantastic, I hope you don't mind, I pinched it and shared on my blogs facebook page (including your blog link)
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Where would life be without a bagpuss? I am a shameless teddy collector. I'm glad your boyfriend has (clearly) seen the correct way to be and given in to the cushions. Although I have cushions and they seem to live permanently floorbound rather than on the bed. Apparently I'm a very enthusiastic sleeper!
DeleteAnd as for pictures and sharing - share away! =] am happy to share the love. And for the life of me I cannot remember where I got it from myself.
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Delete'enthusiastic sleeper' that made me really giggle :)
I've blogged about the photo too and put a link to this post too
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It's so true, it's hard to feel good and happy if you get home to a very "cold" and messy flat. I just moved into a new flat (with the boy, which is new, but I think we're doing alright) and at the beginning there just wasn't anywhere to put things and all our stuff was just scattered all over the flat (which made me v. moody), but now after countless trips to Ikea (and even more discussions about how things look nice in jars, even though it makes for bad storage, because you can't fit in an entire package of anything, we've now got jars and I even ordered a label maker to make everything look even cooler :) ) it's now finally looking like a home and I love it!
ReplyDeleteI agree that it's hard to stay an individual whilst part of something else, but I think if you make sure you have a little time to yourself every day and are aware of what could go wrong, it'll be ok :)
Hope you're having a nice weekend!
This is sweet :) xx
ReplyDeletegreat post! i am recently single and have found myself in somewhat of a rut, so hopefully those little pointers will help me to feel myself again! hope they are working for you xo
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