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Roommates in London

19 Feb 2013




One of the things that has been amazing about being a single girl in London has been living with girls who have become my best friends.


I honestly don't know what I'd do without my flatmate Sarah. When we've both got a day working from home, we sit together and make each other cups of tea. We share cooking duties and remind each other to clean up. We make time to watch TV we both love together and have empassioned debates over red wine. We're there for each other when we feel down or just need a shoulder to lean on.

Finding roommates in London is always a tricky task. We've recently had to get a new girl into the final room of our three-bedroom apartment and I thought I'd share what to look for in a potential roomie so you too can have a harmonious living situation, and how to overcome any potential pitfalls:

  •  Look for someone who when you meet you have a natural, friendly conversation. They will most likely be a little nervous on first meeting, but if they ask you genuine questions about your life and seem interested in you, this is a good sign that they're a nice, kind person. This works both ways - if you're trying to assess flatmates as a potential roomie, always watch out for people who don't bother to find out about you - if they're straight onto bills, money and moving dates before catching your second name, chances are they're only looking for someone to fill a space rather than someone to make a happy home.
  • Chat about lifestyles. This is super important. I have lots of friends who are very into clubbing and dancing, but I could never live with them as I'm much more of a homebody. I love seeing them once in a while, but very probably would kill them if I had to live with them and their continual 5AM bedtimes. In the same vein, if you love to party don't move in with a group of people who like nothing better than a bottle of red, blankets and Silent Witness. Iit might be difficult for a bunch of night-shift workers to live with a day-worker or a super tidy person to live with a bunch of scruffy boys. If you have similar lifestyles and habits, the likelihood is you'll be more in sync with each other.
  • Look for low-maintenance people who don't get offended easily and are aware of themselves. The biggest roommate pitfall is that as humans we're inclined to think that disagreements are totally one-sided, whereas in actual fact there is normally two sides to every story. For example, I can at times get a bit scruffy and lazy - it's not malicious, I'm just a bit forgetful. Because I have this insight into myself, I don't get offended if other people ask me to clean up or run an errand. My housemate Sarah is (unlike me) very conscientious, so from time to time she has to remind me of things. But we both know the important thing is that the job gets done and she knows she can rely on me. It's this understanding of yourself and each other that will lead to mutual, beneficial living arrangements.
  • Finally, realise living together is all about the teamwork - sometimes even the best people will drive you bonkers but it's important to always act for the good of the team!
With that in mind we've got a little teamwork exercise planned to welcome our new flatmate home - Jewel Piccadilly is re-launching this Friday and we've got exclusive tickets to a party on March 1st! So we'll be welcoming our flatmate to our home in style (and trying out their new range of expertly crafted mojitos - all twelve of them if we can manage it!) and of course I'll be blogging about how it goes.

If you had a new flatmate where would you hold your first night out?

Til next time x

15 lovely comments:

  1. Ahh, I was the newbie in my flat this year.. I joined a tight knit group of 5 girls after they couldn't find a 6th roomie... I worked with one of them and she assured me they were all nice, quiet and tidy..
    OH BOY! - I've never felt so unhappy in my life, sleep deprobed isn't even the word, they don't stop blasting music until 4am & party party 24/7 &&&&& they're so unclean :(

    Definitely learnt my lesson.. moving out asap & in with the boy very soon.

    Sorry for the essay comment hah! I just really enjoyed reading your post. These tips are definitely something I'll consider next time I live with a group :)

    Kerys -ox
    Little Bo Blab

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    1. It's so sad when you fall out with flatmates! I've never had it myself but I know friends who have and they really struggled. The best you can do is agree to disagree then move on. Hopefully your new adventure with your boyfriend goes better! xx

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  2. What a different post, I really like this! Thanks for the tips, xx

    vivalashoes.blogspot.com

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  3. I think the lifestyle one is important. But the tricky part is that many times, people lie. How many times have I treid to look for roommates with my ex and they were all saying we aer quiet, never go out, except the occasional Friday night and then the would also blast music, come back home at 4 laughing and dropping things on the floor.
    I also know I have high standards, and as you say, I am aware of myself and I also cannot expect everyone else to have the same standards. On another page, I think lots of people just lack common sens and courtesy!

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    1. It's tough finding people with common ground, especially quickly. best to be honest and open about what you want and try to not sweat the small stuff if you possibly can!

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  4. Sounds like loads of fun, ok dropping Paris and buddy and joining !

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    1. Are you crazy girl? Paris is gorgeous!

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  5. When I first moved to Leeds, my boyfriend and I lived in a shared house - our housemates are like my Leeds family now, and without them I would have felt really unhappy here - instead it feels like home! I definitely agree with your tips - although I would add that sometimes the strangest mix of people can make a harmonious home, so go into your search with an open mind.

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    1. Yeah I agree, sometimes people surprise you! Glad you've had a great time :)

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  6. My previous houseshare was a nightmare! Coming straight from university, where I was sharing sharing with all my best friends, this was a shock! This year, I found great flatmates, unfortunately, both of them are moving out in September. I would move out too, but I currently live in my dream street, in a cool flat and there are so many transport links, I can't imagine me going anywhere! I shall use this guide to find my flatmates! Thanks!

    Elodie x

    http://www.elle-yeah.com

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    1. Wow, that was one long comment! Haha! E x

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  7. I'm looking to move to London in April so if you guys are ever looking for a new roomate please don't be afraid to email for more info. Its been such a hard search so far :/ so I hope to hear from you Amadden88@hotmail.com

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  8. Oh my gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaddddddddddd! I'm the newbie :) I failed on the first task, clearly, but have hopefully made up for it with some inspired hinge-related, stroke the cat, sort the 'baggage' type banter? Can't believe you left vinyl wall stickers out of the post. Basic room-mate stuff.

    xxx

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  9. It's tough finding people with common ground, especially quickly. people can find the best mate in london through this link.

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